I’ve been meaning to talk to you for a while now. I’ve heard everything you’ve been saying about me and I think it’s about time it stopped.
You whisper your bullying judgments to me in the mirror, pointing out my flaws and calling them disgusting. But there's nothing disgusting about me – not my cellulite or my chicken neck or wrinkly skin or wobbly arms or crooked nose or thick ankles, knobbly knees, varicose veins, stretch marks or saddlebags. I'm normal, just like everybody else. When you tell me that I’m not toned enough or thin enough or boobalicious enough, you’re saying that I’m not enough.
Well I’ve got news for you. I am enough. We all are. Every single one of us. In fact, we’re phenomenal. We are women. We run companies and raise children and create art and music and still find the time to boost up our friends, to volunteer and learn. We win Nobel Prizes, we cure disease and scale Everest. We can dance in stilettos, multi-task and multi-orgasm. Our self-worth has nothing to do with the regularity of our features or the circumference of our waistbands.
Would we treat our best friend the way we treat ourselves? Of course not. We don’t think her body or her face is the most important thing about her. We’re not her friend because she looks good in a dress. We love her for a million other reasons, because she’s kind, funny, supportive and smart, would never steal our boyfriend and always asks how our day was. So if we wouldn’t measure her worth using scales or mirrors, isn’t it crazy to measure our own that way?
When we look back on our lives, at the times we stood up for what we believed, supported those we loved, did things that frightened us, raised children, got diplomas, awards and promotions, will the most important thing about us be the size of our jeans?
I, for one, will be thinking about the size of the life I lived, not the dress I wore.
So once and for all, Me, get it through your head: I Am Enough.
With much love and support,
What about you? Will you stand up to that mean little bully in your head? If so, sign this open letter to yourself (add your comment below), then share the link on Facebook and twitter (#IAmEnough) and let's see if we can remind everyone that they're enough too.
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